During The Bad Times.

Jean Sseninde, “The Fixer”

No one wants to be around you during the bad times!

I opened this blog to speak up and say out things on my mind. At times I take long to put something on mainly because I speak up from inspiration.

I have been running the Sseninde Women’s Development Cup for 3 years now and this year will be the 4th. Before I continue, let me take the opportunity to invite you for this years edition on August 24th, 2019 at Kakyeka Stadium in Mbarara, Uganda.

So continuing this story, I have had challenges, I have given everything on this road, I’ve put my career on the line, this road is very lonely I tell you this, endless sleepless nights, tears, at times mild depression, no one can understand it I guess. It’s like being on a battle field every single day. If it’s not for my incredible team, It would be hard to go on. So many people are not honest in there relationships with others.

At times people are only available when the bad times are gone, or when something to there advantage is gonna happen. Always watch out . No one should ever take you for granted.

My advise is, keep in touch with all people who matter. Be kind to others and don’t be there for your friends only during the good times. The bad times matter as well because that’s when strong friendships are built.

Amidst the real battle, fight fight fight, the only recognised place now days is number one so please fight to be the best in everything you do. The mental and physical battle, win it all. Have the right people around you.

In my case if your my friend reading this or even if your not, My name is Jean Sseninde and I fix things. I love to be there for people during the bad times mainly and help them fix the problem. So please count on me and always remember: Am

Jean Sseninde ‘The fixer’

4th Edition Sseninde Women’s Development Cup 2019

“The time is NOW”

The 4th Edition Of the Sseninde Women’s Development Football Cup 2019 is just 30 days away. The excitement is building inside me and I have a good feeling about this one. It’s the first time we are going to do it at Mbarara in Kakyeka Stadium. Looking back from 2016, wow leaps and bounds we have made.

I remember the first edition in my Maama’s office at 3am the day before the tournament busy typing team sheets, I was innocent just starting to break on the scene in the real world. Didn’t know what was coming for me four years later.

The sacrifices I’ve had to make to make sure this runs for the fourth year are just what I didn’t expect. The demand the sleepless nights and so much in between you won’t know of course. I wouldn’t have done anything without my incredible team. We started as 9 volunteers and now we are 52. Still can’t believe what’s happening at times.

Usually athletes take sport number 1 and I do as well. Can’t believe I put my career on the line for the first time in my life and I felt fulfilled. I feel my vision is clearer now. My dream is to see millions of girls get opportunities I never got and that’s going to be my fight through actions. I want to live by example.

As I continue to spend more sleepless nights, I pray and hope we continue to work together and support each other through it all. We can never be 100 percent but we can try to be the best version of what we can be because the time is NOW.

Split Second.

“Magic is created in split seconds and dreams are shuttered in split seconds”

I dreamt last night that I had no leg, in other words I was using a prosthetic leg for support to move in one of my legs. In the dream, I was wondering how I had got to that point. And also realising that there’s nothing I could do to change that fact, wishing I was in a dream so I could wake up healthy, but also realising in the dream that am not in a dream, confusing ha? In a split second, my life unexpectedly turned upside down! Confused with disbelief I had to figure out how to still be useful to others and how I was going to be the best at what I do with a prosthetic leg.

Mistakes and bad things happen to us in a split second. You lose your concentration for one second and it’s enough to change your whole life upside down. In the dream I wasn’t born walking with a prosthetic, I only got it at around 34. Good news is I woke up fine and had both my legs, phew! God is great.

This teaches me that we need to live every moment to the fullest without regret. We don’t know what’s gonna happen tomorrow so every second counts. Every second could change your life. Magic is created in split seconds and dreams are shuttered in split seconds therefore we need to stay concentrated and stay focused in everything we do because every split second counts.

FIFA Women’s Football Convention 2019.

“Dreams do come true, I dreamt of this moment”

Am humbled to be amongst a strong line up of speakers at the First ever FIFA Women’s Football Convention in Paris, France from June 6th to June 7th, 2019 ahead of the Eighth Edition of the 2019 FIFA Women’s World Cup.

The Convention will assemble leaders from the world of football and politics for the first time, to discuss key issues around the development and empowerment of women in football.

Dreams do come true, I dreamt of this moment and can’t believe I have the opportunity. I am so excited and still can’t believe that I will be speaking at the first ever Women’s Football Convention. Women football growth is one of the key issues I’ve been so vocal about, what an honour this is! Still can’t put it into words.

Will be speaking about empowerment through football and education of women and girls around the World.

Follow all action live on FIFA TV https://www.youtube.com/user/FIFATV and FIFA YouTube channel.

What I Missed Out Doesn’t Matter.

“Life for me is not about being comfortable anymore”

Looks like everyone of my old classmates is getting married yet on my side, I feel my priorities have changed from the 21 year old who fancied to get married and have kids.

My priorities are now to be a great woman of purpose to the world. For now am focused on working to learning as much as I can and developing. Hopefully everyone else has gone through this stage in their life. There’s a way sport makes you obsessed to succeed and other things become second options.

My life has been in stages, I wonder if everyone of you is just like me? At the age of 8 – 16, I never had clear opportunities to anything. My only passion was football which was a sport for the boys then. Should have learned more at my golden age but I don’t regret anymore of what I should have had then because I had no opportunities, it was out of my control and I understand that now. I stopped looking at how things should have been in the past, what I missed out doesn’t matter. I now concentrate on making the future great because it’s the only thing have power to change.

17 – 21, Age of school and adolescence, figuring out life, I don’t remember much apart from studying around that age. At 22-24, I felt I wanted kids, don’t know why I did,thinking of it now feels so awkward.

At 25- 26, am now not ashamed of who I-am anymore. I trust I have the power to be great and I understand I have to work very hard to achieve even half of the things I want to achieve. Am determined, I have to push my limits. Life for me is not about being comfortable anymore. I want to be successful and leave an impact in people’s hearts.

Attitude.

“It’s easy to lose sight of your goals when there’s so much going on around you”

A few years ago, I made the biggest sacrifice of my life to embark on achieving my dreams. Maybe they were not as clear then as they are now. I always had fantasies when I was little and having a tattoo was one of them. Funny enough I hate needles but for this I managed to stand the pain. I have five:) (they r hidden or faint so it’s hard for someone to notice, not that being so dark skinned helps either) I admit I would have had more if I had the time and was extravagant.

Looking back at my life seven years ago and now, am thankful I have partly achieved most of my goals. If I was not to exist any more I think I would be satisfied more than a little. Everything I’ve got I’ve earned it. Even tho as humans we always want more. Now there bigger dreams to achieve and am still going.

Maturity has been a big part of my life and I’ve learned to stay calm and be strong in times of need, loneliness, pain, when things are not going my way and every feeling you can imagine that causes uncertainties.

Patience and hard work are my friends. Dear friends, never lose focus. It’s easy to lose sight of your goals when there’s so much going on around you but attack what life brings at you, attack it my friend and follow your heart always.

Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference. I’ve learned and accepted that we won’t have control over every situation in our lives, maybe we don’t get to make every decision. But every new day we get to decide our attitude because with the right attitude, who knows what you can achieve?

Yesterday

“I was imagining the police would find me lying on the ground bleeding”

Yesterday I missed home again! Had stayed indoors all day so went out for a drive to feel the breeze. Parked in the usual car park, left the keys under the car tyre, I usually do when I go running because I hate running with anything in my pockets :).

I crossed the road into the football field, It was late around 7 pm. I walked slowly, hands in my pockets feeling the nice cold breeze on my face. My plan was to walk until I find one of the middle benches in the field, I had lots of thoughts in my head. With the latest stabbings in the UK, I kept imagining someone coming to stab me in the back, I was imagining the pain. I had no phone on me as I had decided to leave it in my car. I was imagining the police would find me lying on the ground bleeding and they won’t know who I am as I also had no identification, my pockets were empty.

I imagined lots of things happening to me in that short space of time, how useless I felt and honestly lots of other nasty stuff. On approaching the seventh bench in the field I decided to stop and sit down. It’s at this moment that I realised I had pictured myself sitting on this bench before I had actually sat on it. I usually picture moments in my head and try to make them real and this was one of them. I also pictured myself writing this when got back home and here I am writing…

After a couple of runs, got back to the car feeling a lot better, okay truth is I miss people, real people. I think ever since I moved to the UK I have occasionally missed being around people(I mean family and friends) tho last year in December it was worse. I didn’t heal till I spoke to the doctor by the way and for the first time, I realised such illnesses exists.

The lesson is don’t judge anyone by their actions before you find out the reason behind their actions. Everyone has real struggles including the celebrities we envy, everyone has baggage. We should try to be helpful and offer help to others where we can if they do ask. You don’t know if you are someone’s hope by listening to them, picking their phone call, kissing them, smiling at them or helping them out in one way or the other.

I was listened to by the doctor in December and am better now. I want to help so many others get better by sharing my true story on a big stage one day. I dream of that moment over and over again in my head where I will wear my suit, medium size, high heels (if I’ve learnt how to walk in them by then) and nice black hair with millions tuned in online and many others sitted in the room listening to my true story…

Creating For Women

”dear rich friends and those who are able to“

Hope your all well? I’ve been extra busy multi-tasking between playing football, managing the Sseninde Foundation, coaching kids and recently took on some continuous professional development courses to sharpen my brain even a lot more. I must admit it’s been incredibly tough, but I’ve adjusted very well. Within this short space of time, I’ve acquired more transferable soft skills that am excited to share with everyone.

For those of you have have been keeping tabs on me am sure you know on March 8th 2019, we launched the #CreatingForWomen campaign. This campaign is about supporting young girls to continue their education combining it with playing football in school.

According to the UNESCO Global education monitoring report in 2017, 264 million girls around the world don’t go to school! On the side of football, millions of girls love to play football and have a passion for the game but don’t get opportunities to play. Of course, this has it’s countless reasons and that’s why this campaign was formed so we could tackle some of these issues. We want to get more girls to play football and also support or help create opportunities where possible for girls to have access to a good education.

Myself and the Sseninde Foundation with which am a director pledged to Visit 10 different districts, 10 schools, support 10 women towards their footballing journey and help create 10 education opportunities for girls to continue with their education.

We kicked off this campaign with Kidde Primary School in Kasangati located in Wakiso district. I hear it’s one of the largest districts in Uganda I don’t know right now if it still is.There was no better place to start the campaign than my home town where it all started. It was the most perfect day. Lots of girls had fun and more importantly took the important message my team passed onto them,“Education is as important as playing football in school”

This campaign is more than just a campaign to me and has a personal meaning attached to it. Will leave that for another day but if you can’t wait, your welcome to contact my agent for an interview.

We are looking forward to visiting the next 9 districts, getting more girls to play football in schools and creating more educational opportunities for girls around the world because I believe,

“Education is one of the greatest investments, It will always have profits in abundance”

“Football can help girls speak up, stay healthy and make friends”

With all that said, dear rich friends and those who are able to, if there’s any way you can support this campaign so we can reach out to even more girls than the ones our Foundation pledged (10), in form of cash, scholastic materials, sports equipment and others to help girls gain access to a good education and play football you’re more than welcome:)

Behind The Smile

‘I have learned to be unapologetic about the things I want to do’

The truth is , I never knew how much my life could change when I left my home country to move to the UK. It’s been years and honestly am very fine and happy. I admit I have changed and am convinced I’ve changed for the better. Sometimes I cant believe how bold I am when addressing people and also how I fight for the things I want / believe in. I opened this website to speak up my mind aloud and am sure theres a lot of mistakes but for once I allowed my self to be raw.

Everything I do is for a purpose and for the last few days I have learned to be unapologetic about the things I want to do . At times all the people who don’t want us to succeed put all the bad thoughts in our minds that send the message to our hearts like a chain of command that’s very effective. Have grown up now and truth is we all don’t have much time. My dreams are real in my heart and I don’t see a way out right now apart from fighting hard. As I told you I have enjoyed my journey so far since I left home but now my heart aches so bad. I left my friends and family and everyone I know and at quite a young age! Now the challenge I have is that I miss home, I miss my friends I miss having all the people I had around me.

With life we have to make sacrifices tho I feel at this point everything is hard. Most things feel like a love hate relationship. I think am a person of extremes where I love too much when I do and probably vice verser but please don’t quote me on that.

I really miss home! Even being here, there’s something wrong that I cant quit explain. I don’t wanna leave, the things I wanna do seem like very big Dreams so at times I feel am in this kind of bubble or dreamy world. The truth is I don’t really care because what is the point of life anyway if we don’t do the things we wanna do?

The truth is , the life we have won’t last forever. I have fallen in love with being home. I want to have all my friends again that I left. Its nothing to do with what am doing now but its just the way it is, its just what my heart wants and for me thats what matters now.

Behind this smile there’s a young lady who is fighting, working very hard to achieve a big dream, there’s this strong woman who misses family everyday but keeps going because it’s just how life is. There’s this beautiful lady who wants to go out for a drink with a friend who is probably busier than she is! A strong lady who has learned to keep a deaf ear when someone says she’s not good enough. Having learned how to deal with that, the maturity I have is victory I should be proud of.

Since this is my first blog of 2019, I wish you all a happy new year.