What I Missed Out Doesn’t Matter.

“Life for me is not about being comfortable anymore”

Looks like everyone of my old classmates is getting married yet on my side, I feel my priorities have changed from the 21 year old who fancied to get married and have kids.

My priorities are now to be a great woman of purpose to the world. For now am focused on working to learning as much as I can and developing. Hopefully everyone else has gone through this stage in their life. There’s a way sport makes you obsessed to succeed and other things become second options.

My life has been in stages, I wonder if everyone of you is just like me? At the age of 8 – 16, I never had clear opportunities to anything. My only passion was football which was a sport for the boys then. Should have learned more at my golden age but I don’t regret anymore of what I should have had then because I had no opportunities, it was out of my control and I understand that now. I stopped looking at how things should have been in the past, what I missed out doesn’t matter. I now concentrate on making the future great because it’s the only thing have power to change.

17 – 21, Age of school and adolescence, figuring out life, I don’t remember much apart from studying around that age. At 22-24, I felt I wanted kids, don’t know why I did,thinking of it now feels so awkward.

At 25- 26, am now not ashamed of who I-am anymore. I trust I have the power to be great and I understand I have to work very hard to achieve even half of the things I want to achieve. Am determined, I have to push my limits. Life for me is not about being comfortable anymore. I want to be successful and leave an impact in people’s hearts.

Attitude.

“It’s easy to lose sight of your goals when there’s so much going on around you”

A few years ago, I made the biggest sacrifice of my life to embark on achieving my dreams. Maybe they were not as clear then as they are now. I always had fantasies when I was little and having a tattoo was one of them. Funny enough I hate needles but for this I managed to stand the pain. I have five:) (they r hidden or faint so it’s hard for someone to notice, not that being so dark skinned helps either) I admit I would have had more if I had the time and was extravagant.

Looking back at my life seven years ago and now, am thankful I have partly achieved most of my goals. If I was not to exist any more I think I would be satisfied more than a little. Everything I’ve got I’ve earned it. Even tho as humans we always want more. Now there bigger dreams to achieve and am still going.

Maturity has been a big part of my life and I’ve learned to stay calm and be strong in times of need, loneliness, pain, when things are not going my way and every feeling you can imagine that causes uncertainties.

Patience and hard work are my friends. Dear friends, never lose focus. It’s easy to lose sight of your goals when there’s so much going on around you but attack what life brings at you, attack it my friend and follow your heart always.

Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference. I’ve learned and accepted that we won’t have control over every situation in our lives, maybe we don’t get to make every decision. But every new day we get to decide our attitude because with the right attitude, who knows what you can achieve?

Yesterday

“I was imagining the police would find me lying on the ground bleeding”

Yesterday I missed home again! Had stayed indoors all day so went out for a drive to feel the breeze. Parked in the usual car park, left the keys under the car tyre, I usually do when I go running because I hate running with anything in my pockets :).

I crossed the road into the football field, It was late around 7 pm. I walked slowly, hands in my pockets feeling the nice cold breeze on my face. My plan was to walk until I find one of the middle benches in the field, I had lots of thoughts in my head. With the latest stabbings in the UK, I kept imagining someone coming to stab me in the back, I was imagining the pain. I had no phone on me as I had decided to leave it in my car. I was imagining the police would find me lying on the ground bleeding and they won’t know who I am as I also had no identification, my pockets were empty.

I imagined lots of things happening to me in that short space of time, how useless I felt and honestly lots of other nasty stuff. On approaching the seventh bench in the field I decided to stop and sit down. It’s at this moment that I realised I had pictured myself sitting on this bench before I had actually sat on it. I usually picture moments in my head and try to make them real and this was one of them. I also pictured myself writing this when got back home and here I am writing…

After a couple of runs, got back to the car feeling a lot better, okay truth is I miss people, real people. I think ever since I moved to the UK I have occasionally missed being around people(I mean family and friends) tho last year in December it was worse. I didn’t heal till I spoke to the doctor by the way and for the first time, I realised such illnesses exists.

The lesson is don’t judge anyone by their actions before you find out the reason behind their actions. Everyone has real struggles including the celebrities we envy, everyone has baggage. We should try to be helpful and offer help to others where we can if they do ask. You don’t know if you are someone’s hope by listening to them, picking their phone call, kissing them, smiling at them or helping them out in one way or the other.

I was listened to by the doctor in December and am better now. I want to help so many others get better by sharing my true story on a big stage one day. I dream of that moment over and over again in my head where I will wear my suit, medium size, high heels (if I’ve learnt how to walk in them by then) and nice black hair with millions tuned in online and many others sitted in the room listening to my true story…

Creating For Women

”dear rich friends and those who are able to“

Hope your all well? I’ve been extra busy multi-tasking between playing football, managing the Sseninde Foundation, coaching kids and recently took on some continuous professional development courses to sharpen my brain even a lot more. I must admit it’s been incredibly tough, but I’ve adjusted very well. Within this short space of time, I’ve acquired more transferable soft skills that am excited to share with everyone.

For those of you have have been keeping tabs on me am sure you know on March 8th 2019, we launched the #CreatingForWomen campaign. This campaign is about supporting young girls to continue their education combining it with playing football in school.

According to the UNESCO Global education monitoring report in 2017, 264 million girls around the world don’t go to school! On the side of football, millions of girls love to play football and have a passion for the game but don’t get opportunities to play. Of course, this has it’s countless reasons and that’s why this campaign was formed so we could tackle some of these issues. We want to get more girls to play football and also support or help create opportunities where possible for girls to have access to a good education.

Myself and the Sseninde Foundation with which am a director pledged to Visit 10 different districts, 10 schools, support 10 women towards their footballing journey and help create 10 education opportunities for girls to continue with their education.

We kicked off this campaign with Kidde Primary School in Kasangati located in Wakiso district. I hear it’s one of the largest districts in Uganda I don’t know right now if it still is.There was no better place to start the campaign than my home town where it all started. It was the most perfect day. Lots of girls had fun and more importantly took the important message my team passed onto them,“Education is as important as playing football in school”

This campaign is more than just a campaign to me and has a personal meaning attached to it. Will leave that for another day but if you can’t wait, your welcome to contact my agent for an interview.

We are looking forward to visiting the next 9 districts, getting more girls to play football in schools and creating more educational opportunities for girls around the world because I believe,

“Education is one of the greatest investments, It will always have profits in abundance”

“Football can help girls speak up, stay healthy and make friends”

With all that said, dear rich friends and those who are able to, if there’s any way you can support this campaign so we can reach out to even more girls than the ones our Foundation pledged (10), in form of cash, scholastic materials, sports equipment and others to help girls gain access to a good education and play football you’re more than welcome:)

Behind The Smile

‘I have learned to be unapologetic about the things I want to do’

The truth is , I never knew how much my life could change when I left my home country to move to the UK. It’s been years and honestly am very fine and happy. I admit I have changed and am convinced I’ve changed for the better. Sometimes I cant believe how bold I am when addressing people and also how I fight for the things I want / believe in. I opened this website to speak up my mind aloud and am sure theres a lot of mistakes but for once I allowed my self to be raw.

Everything I do is for a purpose and for the last few days I have learned to be unapologetic about the things I want to do . At times all the people who don’t want us to succeed put all the bad thoughts in our minds that send the message to our hearts like a chain of command that’s very effective. Have grown up now and truth is we all don’t have much time. My dreams are real in my heart and I don’t see a way out right now apart from fighting hard. As I told you I have enjoyed my journey so far since I left home but now my heart aches so bad. I left my friends and family and everyone I know and at quite a young age! Now the challenge I have is that I miss home, I miss my friends I miss having all the people I had around me.

With life we have to make sacrifices tho I feel at this point everything is hard. Most things feel like a love hate relationship. I think am a person of extremes where I love too much when I do and probably vice verser but please don’t quote me on that.

I really miss home! Even being here, there’s something wrong that I cant quit explain. I don’t wanna leave, the things I wanna do seem like very big Dreams so at times I feel am in this kind of bubble or dreamy world. The truth is I don’t really care because what is the point of life anyway if we don’t do the things we wanna do?

The truth is , the life we have won’t last forever. I have fallen in love with being home. I want to have all my friends again that I left. Its nothing to do with what am doing now but its just the way it is, its just what my heart wants and for me thats what matters now.

Behind this smile there’s a young lady who is fighting, working very hard to achieve a big dream, there’s this strong woman who misses family everyday but keeps going because it’s just how life is. There’s this beautiful lady who wants to go out for a drink with a friend who is probably busier than she is! A strong lady who has learned to keep a deaf ear when someone says she’s not good enough. Having learned how to deal with that, the maturity I have is victory I should be proud of.

Since this is my first blog of 2019, I wish you all a happy new year.